I hope you are enjoying the first month of this brand-new year and keeping up with all of your resolutions? How quickly is January flying by? It’s bloody scary if you ask me. I turned 28 last Wednesday and it feels like I was only 22 a week ago.
I’ve been particularly pensive this week, which I tend to get like around my birthday. With it being the start of a new year, and us being one month in, I’m feeling rather fidgety at how I’m not ‘progressing’ quickly enough. I set so many goals as to where I thought I’d be by the end of January, and I’m unsure whether I’m going to meet them. Which is silly, and to be honest, quite unrealistic (I never claim that I am a rational human being).
But, admittedly, it’s not like I’m not working my tush off. Last week I finally finished a course in public relations, which took a whole two and a half years to complete, YAY. (I differed it due to our Australian move — my excuse was the time zone difference; not the fact I wanted to play on the beach all day instead, I swear.) So, that’s pretty monumental for me. And I’m currently partway through a copywriting course — which I am thoroughly enjoying. I’ve always adored writing but after university, and due to one reason or another, my career path took a slight detour. It feels good to be finally finding my feet and my direction again.
But even with those recent wins under my belt, I find myself still feeling a tad blue. Speaking collectively here, like so many of the women around me, I am particularly hard on myself. I set goals with ridiculous and most of the time actually unachievable expectations, and I wonder why I haven’t met my target.
However, whilst perusing Instagram recently, a post from the fabulous Monica Beatrice of The Elgin Avenue graced my screen and has since stuck with me. So, I thought I would share it with you too. She points out that great things are built on strong foundations, and it’s okay to start slowly. As long as you have a focus or a general idea of where you are headed, you don’t need to rush. Or set yourself unrealistic goals and get all sour puss when they aren’t achieved as quickly as you would like.
“Foundations first (including looking after YOU)
and the rest will follow.”
I truly love this sentiment. It’s certainly not my go-to mindset, and despite patience not being a virtue of mine, I’m going to give it a go.
One of the beautiful things about the internet – as damaging and destructive a monster it can be – you don’t have to look far for a source of inspiration or a pick me up. There’s endless advice to be gained and so much positivity floating around the social ether (if you know how to channel it and where to look).
So, I’m writing this post as a reminder to take a step back. To reaffirm to myself, too, that forward is forward, no matter how fast you are going. And to focus a little harder on what I want to achieve — not the time it’s taking to do so. I’m not the self-congratulatory type, but also, to give myself credit every now and again for working hard.
I’m excited to see what this year holds. (Preferably a new job, set of abs, and a house for Joel and I!) But, more realistically, lots of focus and less pressure, courtesy of me!
If you are feeling anything like me, I hope this mindset helps a little. Let’s not forget to give ourselves a break, we are doing our best!
Nice checking in, friends,